Dislike with Respect
Published Friday, January 04, 2008 by
Nidhi Narayan | E-mail this post
I am a self-proclaimed difficult person, i have issues like........if i dont like someone...i just dont like them, i dont abide by anything i think is wrong, i dont give plastic smiles, i dont talk to someone just for the sake of doing so.....there is a long list of things i dont like and do.....
Following on the same lines.....i had taken a strong dislike for one of my junior colleagues.....it actually were a lot of personal and professional reasons which cumulated to this wall i had made against her.....
then one day a colleague of mine pointed the fact that i had actually been really rude to her on many occassions....."rude" thats something i dont identify at all with.....but then it was probably true, i might have crossed the line...
she told me that the junior colleague was living a very difficult life with a sal of say 10k and because of a major financial crunch at home she was sending 7k home every month, living a very plain life, avoidig socialising to save on money, etc.....ZAPP!!!
I was completely zapped and dumb-found, so much of hard-ship at such an early age and that too with so much courage to face it head-on.......i cannot empathize with her nor will i sympathise, to make her feel weak, but i now respect her, more than i did.....more than i will ever do.....
but one thing i want to ask myself why was a reason required to change my attitude towards her, why couldnt i put a cap to my emotions beforehand....i dont know
But the fact also remains that I may not like her, but i do respect her.........I think it is possible - not to like someone yet respect them for who they are and what they do!!!!!!!!!!
What's her no.???/ :)
okay... jokes apart....
well i think it's a very natural problem wid 5.999 billion people around the globe...
actually it's not a problem it is a human tendency to see things from our glasses which is stained one
we think that what ever we see and perceive or judge or analyze is the way it is in reality but i afraid to say 99% of time we can't see the real picture
but we do staisfy our ego with picture perfect that we see through our stained glasses
all we need to do is to clear the stain and try to see the real picture
and discover the real beauty of world
i think everybody know this fact but very little people try to empathise
hhheheheheh lagta hai kuch jyda hi kitaaab padhta hoon aaj kal....
i think readig books is a really good thing and if we can implement it in our lives..........theres nothing better than that
i am amongst those who is not ashamed of learing from my mistakes, and yes i have learnt from this one too